Prioritizing Yourself with Self-Discovery Coach, Lexy Davis

Episode 6 of the ‘Scoot’ podcast delivers a brave and bold conversation with self-discovery coach and “Alive to Enjoy” founder, Lexy Davis, about her struggle to find and love herself fully. Alongside this personal discovery, Lexy has also found a path to encourage others in showing self-compassion and self-love.   
Lexy’s journey to this path of healing began at age 5, which she marks as the pivotal age when her mother left the family home without warning, and Lexy was left in the care of her grieving father.  As her remaining parent struggled with mental illness, Lexy “tried to figure out who [she] was” by traveling and exploring self-help methods as a young adult. “I grew up with really masculine energy where nobody dealt with emotions... I realized I had abandonment fears, which were from my mom leaving. I realized I had never been in a relationship before and had some fears about intimacy. . . . I didn’t understand that concept,” she said. 
Attending college out-of-state granted Lexy the freedom to explore mental, emotional, and physical health. By building her skills in meditation, yoga, and attending classes like sociology, she realized “there’s a reason why I am the way that I am and my childhood ha[d] such a big impact on my life. I started to dive into yoga and natural medicine.” 

Studying abroad in New Zealand deepened Lexy’s resolve to see “what is possible. I booked a one-way ticket to Australia and wound up staying for 2 years.” The life coach and yoga instructor also noticed a consistent thread in her interpersonal relationships; Lexy was “people-pleasing…[she was] caretaking others’ emotions and feeling responsible for how they’re feeling.” She added that “my worth isn’t in making others feel good…I realized there was self-abandonment in that. I was abandoning my needs.”
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Lexy had no way of knowing how her early experiences would manifest as an adult, and she has made healing her mission. “I realized, [as a] self-discovery coach, I don't want anyone to feel alone or the way I did. A big part of my work is about.. the importance of asking for help because you can go to different people for different things.” At Alive to Enjoy, “there is no room for humiliation, belittling…We have been exposed to enough of that in our lives. You are whole as you are and there is nothing wrong with you!,” reads one of Alive to Enjoy’s values, titled “ Healing in a Shame Free Space." This is just one of the core values designed to help anyone recover or achieve genuine self-acceptance and love; these “ethos” underpin Lexy’ work with clients. Whether in a 1 Hour Recenter Yourself Call, or a private yoga session, Lexy is committed to helping others feel connected to their needs. 

To begin prioritizing yourself, a reset in your thinking and behavior is important. A blog titled Tracking Happiness features 5 ways to prioritize yourself:

1. Befriend your values. To live a fulfilling and rich life, we must find clarity on what sustains us emotionally and intellectually. Grab a pen and notebook and create a list of 5 priorities under each category, in order of importance. That list can include family, friends, spirituality, job, etc. The items at the top of your list take priority in each category. Are you living life in accordance with your top values? If not, it’s time to make some changes. 
2. Say “no” to liberate your time. How good are you at saying “no”? Recognize when you simply don’t have the capacity or you are acting to please others and learn to say “no”. Whether in a professional or personal setting, we often feel pressure to manage others’ comfort level, sometimes above our own. Saying no preserves your comfort and frees you to focus on what you DO want to accomplish.
3. Deploy the Eisenhower Matrix Method. From the moment we wake up, we are processing information and making decisions. But some decisions take a little more brain power than others.The Eisenhower Matrix helps us process information (and tasks) using the following  four categories comparing urgency and importance:

1. First, if a task is urgent and important, we prioritize or “do” it and take action immediately. 
2. Second, if a task is important but not urgent, we schedule or “decide” it for action. 
3. Third, if a task is urgent but not important, we delegate it to another for action. 
4. Lastly, if a task is not urgent and not important we delete it.

This matrix helps us manage our time effectively and efficiently in all areas of our lives. If you decide to give this matrix a try, please comment below to let us know if/how it helps you prioritize yourself.

Source: Indeed.com
      

1. Organize your day. To prioritize your life, you need to take things a day at a time, a month at a time, a quarter at a time, and even a year at a time. Consider using a diary or wall planner, anything to help organize your time. Schedule your time and make sure to allocate yourself time slots to take breaks. Taking breaks can lend to greater productivity in the long run.
2. Be kind to yourself. Above all, be kind to yourself. You are not being kind to yourself if you are constantly run ragged. You risk losing yourself when you say “yes” to others, without any consideration for your mounting to-do list and your extensive commitments. Reduce your social media scrolling. Increase your sleep. Learn to put boundaries in place with people who drain your energy. Feed your body and mind with healthy and nutritious food. Don’t beat yourself up about your weight or appearance. Love yourself for the beautiful person that you are today, exactly as you are.

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For more on Lexy’s story, work, and Alive to Enjoy, you can listen to her interview on Scoot, wherever you listen to podcasts. Here is the Spotify link:
Prioritizing Yourself with Self Discovery Coach - Lexy Davis - Scoot | Podcast on Spotify 

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You can follow Lexy Davis on Instagram: Alive to Enjoy, and listen to her podcast www.alivetoenjoy.com/heartsnuggles.
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